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Instructions:
Answer yes to as many questions in part 2 as you can. Answer the questions
as honestly as you can. Your answers might change as time goes by. I have
included my personal answers to give you an idea of what the answers might
look like.
- F.Q.
In acting towards others:
- Treat other people as though they have a unique kind of genius
- Treat other people's unique kind of genius with love and respect.
- Help them attain their goal.
Don't give them orders.
Get your hands dirty. Give them a hand. Walk beside them or behind then.
Not in front f them.
- Express your admiration to those who dare to follow their dreams.
- If you can, bail out people you love when they get in over their heads
and do no bark at them woth words like :
" I told you so...".
- Give sympathy. Tell them to never give up and that no matter what
happens they have your friendship.
- Be happy when people win where you have failed.
Instead of being jealous, tell yourself: if this person succeeded, then
I can do it too. Maybe she/he can even give me pointers on what to do
to succeed.
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The
path with a heart. |
"....Anything is one of a million
paths (un camino entre cantidades de caminos). Therefore you must always
keep in mind that a path is only a path; if you feel you should not follow
it, you must not stay with it under any conditions. To have such clarity
you must lead a disciplined life. Only then will you know that any path
is only a path, and there is no affront , to oneself or to others, in
dropping it if that is what your heart tells you to do. But your decision
to keep on the path or to leave it must be free of fear or ambition. I
warn you. Look at every path closely and deliberately. Try it as many
times as you think necessary.
This question is one
that only a very old man asks. My benefactor told me about it once when
I was young, and my blood was too vigorous for me to understand it.
Now I do understand it. I will tell you what it is:
Does this path have a heart?
All paths are the same: they lead nowhere. They are paths going through
the bush or into the bush. In my own life I could say I have traversed
long, long paths, but I am nowhere. My benefactor's question has meaning
now. Does this path have a heart? if it does, the path is good; if it
doesn't, it is of no use. Both paths lead no where; but one
has heart the other doesn't.
One makes for
a long journey; as long as you follow it, you are one with it. The other
will make you curse your life. One makes you strong; the other weakens
you."
- Don Juan in The teachings of don juan: a yaqui way
of knowledge by Carlos Castsneda.( merci Fred :)! )
" If a person insists on a certain
program, and doesn't listen to the demands of his own heart, he's going
to risk a schizophrenic crack up. Such a person has put himself off
center. He has aligned himself with a program for life, and it's not
the one the body is interested in at all. The world is full of people
who have stopped listening to themselves or have listened only to their
neighbors to learn what they ought to do, how they ought to behave,
and what the values are that they should be living for"
- Joseph Campbell, the power of myth
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Insightful questions
(Part 2)
By Barbara Sher (Wishcraft: read the book!)
Were you treated as though you had a unique kind of genius that was
loved and respected?
(F.Q.: From my point of view, the unique kind of genius
was identified but not loved or respected. No.)
Were you told that you could do and be anything you wanted- and that
you'd be loved and admired no matter what it was?
(F.Q.: From my point of view, no.)
Did you find it difficult to think in terms of what you want- to
be to do, to have, to see because you've never been encouraged to think
that way?
(F. Q.: I find it difficult to identify what I want
but not because I wasn't encouraged to think this way.)
Even if you've managed to keep your dreams alive, you may have trouble
taking them seriously. Because you've never been taken seriously.
Your talents and interest were considered, at best, qualities that would
make you more attractive to a man/woman, provided you didn't develop
them seriously enough to threaten him/her?
(F.Q.: I've managed to keep my dreams alive. I have
trouble taking them seriously. I feel my talents and interest are unattractive
and I feel they keep me from fitting into the male provider stereotype
mold. I don't think people around take my dreams seriously. They have
the right to do so. But as a result, I feel no one truly understands
me.)
Do you feel you don't know how to ask for help because you're supposed
to give help and not get it.?
(F. Q.: I have trouble asking for help because people
usually ask me why I want to have things done the way I planned it.
They then try to impose a new plan of their own making instead of giving
me what I asked for. I'm also afraid that people might steal my ideas.)
Even if you know how to ask for help you don't know how to put human
resources to work?
(F.Q.: I don't know how to ask for help. I don't
know how to put human resources to work. I'm afraid of turning into
a psychopath boss like the one's I' ve been forced to work for in the
past. I feel people don't listen to me...)
Are you afraid that if you dare to go after what you want you'll
be all alone because that's selfish and selfish means alone?
(F.Q.: If I go after what I want, I'll have to face
the disapproval of my family. The amount of work required to accomplish
my goal will make my friends angry at me because I have not enough time
to properly maintain the relationships.)
Were you given real help and encouragement in finding out what you
wanted to do and how to do it?
(No. It's been a lonely trek walking thrpigh the
fog in front of me. I don't even know if I'm walking in the right direction.
This is why I've built the Djaimox work shop so people can learn from
my mistakes and not have to do what I've had to do in order to
get to where I am today..)
Did you blame yourself for not becoming all they said you could become?
(My parents want financial security for me they don't
realize that doesn't exist anymore our politicians have worked very
heard to take that way form us over the past 30 years. So my parent
will always be worried for me, and oppose my dreams)
Were you encouraged to explore all your talents and interest even
if they changed from day to day?
(Yes. As long as I didn't plan on making a career
out of it)
Were you allowed to complain when the going got tough?
(No. I was always told that previous generations
had it worse than I had it in every aspect. So I was not allowed to
complain.
When I did complain, I felt ashamed for doing so. Also, if I complained
too much I lost friends)
Were you given sympathy instead of being told to quit?
(No. My parents said:" You can't do everything
you want in life" . And my friends didn't know what to say. Some
offered solutions but my complaints were never let into the open. To
this day, I'm afraid of losing friends if I complain.)
Were you bailed out when you got in over your head?
(yes)
Without reproach?
(No. Bailing me out only proved that my ideas were
foolish.)
Were you surrounded by winners who were pleased when you won ?
(I have a few winners who were please when I won.
But I'm afraid of people who might get jealous if I win. Maybe some
members of my family would be jealous of my success and prefer to thwart
my plans instead of seeing me win.. I don't know...)
Imagine that the gifted child you are:
- Was treated as though you had a unique kind of genius
that was loved and respected,
- Told that you could do anything you wanted and you'd be loved and
admired no matter what it was;
- Given real help to explore all your talents and interests even if
they changed every day;
- Allowed to complain when the going got tough and given sympathy instead
of being told to quit;
- Bailed out when you got in over your head-without reproach;
- Surrounded by winners that were pleased when you won;
What do you think you would be doing now?
What would you already have done?
What kind of person would you be?
(I would have made more income from my art.
I would be helping younger people with their own dreams.
I would have found a job that didn't destroy my self worth and creative
drive.
I wouldn't be ashamed of what I have become.)
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